亲情
提交者: Alley 于 北京时间: 22:55:37 9/07/98:
a firend who just went to USA mailed me and told me this:
I went to see a friend of my father. The Uncle and Unty
treated me nicely, but tell the truth, I don't like the way
they talking about their daughter, who came to USA in Middle
School, and got Bachlor at　USA, now is married and working
in (some place in USA). They talked about her with such a
pride, then in evening, the daughter called her parents, with
the tone of a little little girl. Then I realized why I
don't like it, 'cause I never talked with my parents in such
a way.
In night I cried for a while, I don't know why, even I missed
my family and dreamed them for several evenings, I still can't
say some close words when calling. Why can't I overcome this
obstacle for such a long time?

What do u think about it?


中国人的亲情
提交者: 霏霏 于 北京时间: 09:53:39 9/08/98:
答复: 亲情 [提交者: Alley 于 北京时间: 22:55:37 9/07/98:]
　　西方人比较喜欢把＂I love you＂挂在嘴边，而中国人的习惯，
开口头道出款款情深，多数是父母对子女会直接表达疼爱之情，而子
女很少开口对爸爸妈妈说一句：我爱你们．再多的思念都深埋心底．
　　有一次看到一篇文章，大意是说，要在你爱的人还能听到你的话
的时侯表达心声，否则将后悔莫及．后来看到那个美国片子＂ghost＂
（香港把片名译成＂人鬼情未了＂），男女主人公阴阳相隔的时侯，
男主角想对他的女友说一句＂我爱你＂，却已是不能，那份情真意切，
感人肺腑．不止爱情，亲情何尝也不是如此？
　　俺以前也从来不会开口说出自己的牵挂，看了这文章，电影，感
触良多，小时候甚至今天，总是父母对我说：走路小心，好好照顾自
己；我也应该经常对爸爸妈妈说：请你们多多保重，爱惜自己，无论
子女走到海角天涯，父母永远是子女心中最坚实的精神支柱．让爸爸
妈妈知道子女的牵挂，便是给父母最大的安慰．

Re: 亲情
提交者: Shanzhu 于 北京时间: 08:20:26 9/08/98:
答复: 亲情 [提交者: Alley 于 北京时间: 22:55:37 9/07/98:]
Dear Alley,
Why don't you say the word to your family right now?
Don't wait even for a minute.
Warmest regards,
Shanzhu

Re: 亲情
提交者: DanLi 于 北京时间: 12:24:48 9/08/98:
答复: 亲情 [提交者: Alley 于 北京时间: 22:55:37 9/07/98:]
I think what your friend is truly experiencing what the
most Chinese students went through when first landed in
US, that is, the lose of social status, family support
and extreme loneless. Most of us come from OK families
in China, with good school records. The society provides
a fairly safe nets for us to fall upon on when needed.
However, the moment you land on US, you become a student
from a third world country. Even you come with good financial
support, (which was almost unheard of in my time), you lost
most of your social connection and status. How effetive and
quickly you can adjust youself is very key to your survivability
in US.
I speculating that your friend is envy of his or her
uncle's daughter somewhat that she is 'the kid with roots'.
Please tell your friend that we all share his loneless and
frustration when we landed here. I will never forget
those countless long and lonely nights when I waked up with
tears wet the whole pillow. It is very hard to establish yourself
without social roots, but most of my friends have achieved. With
a persistency, your friend should be able to do so too. And,
please remember, short cuts are often lead to regrets.

Dan