发信人: xiao_lun_xun(守侯) 
整理人: xiao_lun_xun(2003-11-24 12:12:49), 站内信件
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米兰柯德拉有一本书叫生活在他方, 我对这五个字有很好的想,        
            我们的生活总是在远方,                                           
            都在想:                                                         
            如果明天我有钱,我就可以...                                      
            但是如果你现在赚少钱不快乐,                                     
            就算你有再多的钱,我保证你也不会快乐;                           
                                                                             
                                                                             
            如果你一个人的时候不会自得其乐,                                 
            即使嫁了人,娶了老婆,                                           
            别人跟你一起一样不快乐;                                         
            如果现在不懂得享受生活,                                         
            未来也不会享受生活                                               
                                                                             
                                                                             
            有人问什么叫做自由,                                             
            所谓的自由就是:                                                 
            你想要拒绝一个人的约会,                                         
            已经不需要任何理由,                                             
            你有权力过自己要过的生活,                                       
            有权力去自己要去的地方,                                         
            其实生活很简单                                                   
                                                                             
                                                                             
            男人跟女人都很喜欢在自己的人生设一个                             
            deadline,比如说:                                               
            我25岁一定要结婚,26岁一定生孩子,30岁时一定要一男一女,31岁的时 
            候一定要有房子,所以很多决定就很草率,                           
                                                                             
            如果刚开始你找的那个人就不对,                                   
            往后再怎么努力都不对;                                           
            有时候,我们常常会觉得婚结了,所有问题就没了,那如果结了婚还有问 
            题,就赶快把小孩生一生,其实你的问题在这个阶段没解决,在下个阶段 
            只会变大                                                         
                                                                             
                                                                             
            你对未来不用期待太多,                                           
            期待太多... 老实说挫折感会很深,                                 
                                                                             
            不如看看你现在做什么事情,                                       
            会让你觉得很自在,吸收到很多的东西,                             
            那个时候你才会觉得人生真的很充实,                               
            另外,一个人如果太努力在活给别人看,                             
            就会痛苦得不得了                                                 
            今天如果你相信自己做得还不错,                                   
            不在乎别人怎么看你的时候,                                       
            你真的可以很自在                                                 
                                                                             
                                                                             
                                                                             
                                                                             
            成功的秘诀就是:我一辈子都不做我不能胜任的事情,有句话说胜任愉快 
            像我当年也是因数学,英文不好才念中文系的,其实人最重要的是要了解 
            自己, 走最适合自己的路                                          
                                                                             
                                                                             
            什么才叫成功?                                                   
            我觉得只要达到以下三点就是成功:                                 
                                                                             
                                                                             
            1.我是好人                                                       
            2.我是有用的人                                                   
            3.我是快乐的人                                                   
            还有                                                             
            富裕的人不一定是快乐的,但快乐的人却是最富裕的。                 
                                                  而心灵上的寂寞是最贫穷的﹗﹗ 
 
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